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How Helping Others Helped In My Healing: A Journey of Redemption and Purpose

Three months after my divorce, I had started going to a new church. Little did I know that the words of the pastor I met that day would shape the trajectory of my healing journey in ways I couldn't have imagined.

I confided in him about my plans to start a Life Group for single women navigating heartbreak and divorce. I told him I wanted to wait until I was further down my path of healing, that I was still heartbroken. His response was simple yet profound: "Debra, that is exactly who God uses."

His words struck a chord within me. How could I, in the midst of my own pain and confusion, offer any semblance of guidance or support to others? But the pastor's wisdom resonated deeply: it's often through our brokenness that we become vessels for healing.

So, with trepidation and a heart still mending, I took a leap of faith and started the group. Yes, I was a mess. But in my vulnerability, I found strength, and in sharing my own struggles, I created a safe space for others to do the same.

Leading this group, alongside newfound friends from a Divorce Care group, became a catalyst for my own healing. Every session, every shared tear and shared story, brought a sense of purpose and belonging that I had been desperately seeking.

As I walked alongside these women on their journey, I found my own wounds beginning to mend. The act of helping others shifted my focus away from my own pain and towards the needs of those around me. It was a reminder that true healing often comes not from self-absorption, but from selflessness and service.

Through this experience, I discovered the profound truth that in giving of ourselves to others, we receive healing in return. It's a beautiful cycle of redemption and grace, a testament to the transformative power of love and compassion.

Now, as a coach to other women on their own paths of healing, I am continually reminded of the profound impact of reaching out to others in their time of need. Each session fills me with a sense of fulfillment and gratitude, knowing that I am playing a small part in someone else's journey towards wholeness.

So, to anyone out there who may be hurting, who may feel lost in their pain, I offer this simple yet profound advice: reach out. Find someone to walk alongside you, and in turn, offer your hand to someone else. For in helping others, we ultimately help ourselves.

Don't get stuck in the suck, my friends. Embrace the healing power of helping others, and watch as it transforms your life in ways you never thought possible.

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