**Embracing the Hard Things: My Journey Through Divorce and Healing**
If I wanted to heal my pain, I needed to do the hard things. And let me tell you, everything seemed hard when going through the pain of divorce. God got my attention, and He wanted to help me grow and become a better person. I had one of two decisions to make: Was I going to run from Him or to Him?
To be honest, I never thought about running from Him. He has always been my constant in life. But I sure thought about taking shortcuts to get where He wanted me to go in my timing instead of His. You know, God reminded me of this the other day when my car’s maintenance light came on. It said, "Maintenance Due." Then underneath, it said, "Push to Dismiss." It was showing the button to push to dismiss.
In my divorce, I believe He was telling me, "Maintenance is due." Then I had a choice: dismiss or listen. Thank God I listened because there have been times I have dismissed Him. Some of the things He showed me, and is still showing me, are hard to hear but are making me the person He had always created me to be. I think there will always be some part of my life that will need maintenance as I believe we can always get better and better.
I determined that I wanted the better God had for me and that I was going to do whatever it took to get it. Was this easy? No. But was it worth it? Yes. Did it take time for me to mourn, to grieve, to let go, to forgive, and change my mindset? Yes. Did I at times beat myself up when I did not get it right? Yes. But I have learned that God is not disappointed in me and I could try again the next day.
And as I kept doing the work, I started feeling joy again, peace again, purpose again, alive again. I started living life to the fullest and doing things I had never done before. It was exhilarating! So, is getting onto your path of healing truly possible after a divorce? 1000% yes. It may not feel like it now for you, my friend, but believe and trust that it can happen and the Holy Spirit will help you get there.
Embracing the hard things meant facing my pain head-on, acknowledging my weaknesses, and allowing God to work through me. It meant doing the uncomfortable and sometimes painful inner work necessary to heal and grow. But through it all, I found that God’s grace was sufficient. He provided me with strength when I was weak, hope when I was hopeless, and love when I felt unlovable.
Healing is a journey, not a destination. And on this journey, I've learned that it's okay to have setbacks, to feel lost, and to struggle. What's important is to keep moving forward, to keep trusting God, and to keep believing that better days are ahead. Each step, no matter how small, is a step towards the abundant life that God has promised.
So, if you’re going through a similar situation, remember that you’re not alone. God is with you every step of the way. Embrace the hard things, trust in His timing, and know that He is working all things for your good. Your path to healing is possible, and it’s worth every effort. Keep the faith, and let God guide you to a place of peace, joy, and fulfillment.
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